How To Instantly Up Your Success Quotient

Business success and personal success. They’re deeply connected and are important to us all. And yet many times we aren’t operating at the levels we wish. Can you relate? Well listen up because I’m going to give you a strategy to instantly free yourself and achieve more success in both areas. That is, if you have the cojones for it.

Most men, when asked, will say that they “definitely” want more success in their business and in their personal lives, and that “Yes”, they will do what it takes to get it. Are you willing to do what it takes for the life you want? Well, we’ll see.

Here’s the strategy by way of a metaphor. Picture you’re life as a bushel basket of apples. Most of the apples are good, firm apples ready to be eaten. But if you dig through the basket, you’ll inevitably come across a few that are rotten, mushy or full of worms. Would you ignore those bad apples and leave them in there to start spoiling the rest? Of course not. And yet, even though you’ve all heard this metaphor a thousand times, when it comes to your life, you allow negative people to continue to spoil your mind and hold you back. This is where you’ll need those ‘cojones’ we talked about.

It’s usually easy to dismiss and cut out negative people you don’t know well or care for, that’s not the hard part. But if you’re really going to up your success quotient this year, you’ve got to do what it takes to remove or silence those close to you who continually bring you down. This could be your wife or girlfriend, a parent, a certain friend or colleague, a business partner, you name it – you know who it is in your life. And since you usually can’t or don’t want to cut these people out of your life, this is where you have to step up and be the man you want to be. Here are two key ways to get the bad apples out of your basket:

#1) Keep your goals, ideas and plans close to your chest, especially when they are still in the infant stage. If you’re used to talking aloud about everything that’s going on in your business to your family or friends then guess what…it’s time to clam up Buttercup. There isn’t a rule that says you have to share everything with those closet to you.

Exposing the small spark of an idea to the big wind of negativity will kill it (and you). Only share with your biggest fans at first, they’ll help you gently fan the flame and pursue the life you want.

#2) Realize the negative things people say (or vibes they give off) are all about them, their fears, insecurities and pain. Etch that in your mind, and say it to yourself when you come up against the negative comments (which by the way, often sound confusingly nice or ‘concerned’ coming from those you love).

Make no mistake, it’s your decision, and it’s a big one.  Will you have the guts to let it roll off your back and move on with creating the life you want? Or will you let it suck you in again and again?

And a special note about spouses because I hear this from men all the time: If you’re constantly sharing your daily business ups and downs with your wife and then wondering why life is so stressful at home, stop and think about this. By unloading on her, you are unfairly forcing her to take on your stress as well as her own stress. One of the basic human concerns of women is security, it is how they are hard-wired, and so she will take on your stress if you give it to her. Don’t. She doesn’t need it or deserve it. And by you putting it out there she’ll feel like she has to do something about it. Or at the very least she’ll will worry about it and wonder whether or not you’re up to providing the security she needs. And that will begin to erode your relationship even it you can’t see it.

Be a man and be the leader. Handle it yourself, and when you need to, get advice or vent with other men or your coach. This doesn’t mean cutting your wife out of everything and not communicating, just resist the temptation to dump your business concerns and fears on her.

So there you have it, to instantly up your success quotient this year, do what it takes to get the bad attitudes and the naysayers out of your life or at the very least, out of your mind by focusing on the above two points.

cheers, Michael

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